You do not need other people’s permission to end a toxic relationship. — THE MANIC YEARS



Feeling the freedom on the summit of Whernside, Yorkshire Dales. As I look back over my relationships throughout my adult life, I realise I am finally at that place where I can be proud of myself for where I am today – especially when it comes to my love life. Relationships are complex and whether […]

You do not need other people’s permission to end a toxic relationship. — THE MANIC YEARS

I had to share this post! I absolutely love the detail and the insight! This is the first post I have ever shared on my blog! It is quite a read! I too was a codependent person for much of my life and I struggled with self love. Today, I can honestly say, that I am on the path to healing. It is my hopes that you too can heal!

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Bridgette~

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Trying To Please

person holding brown and white paper


When we try to please others often we tend to lose ourselves. A true ritual I have endured most of my life. I thought if only I could do for you and make you happy would you stay, would you love me, would you well, never mind, you left anyway. Being married a few times in my life, I have notoriously lost and found myself so many times. It was never about keeping the laundry done, the house being kept cleaned, and the children entertained, it was about who I had lost along the way, me.

No longer was I that person you could connect with, for I had become your twin, and quite honestly, who wants another version of yourself, just like you?

I found in those that moved on, they found happiness in those that maintained their true identities. Having their own hobbies, having their own uniqueness is what prompted those that left me to stay in those new relationships. What a simple concept, yet took me a long while to learn.

No one out their wants a co dependent you might say. Someone that doesn’t think they could survive on their own without you. Being needy and too much, tends to wear one down.

So at 48 years old, and alone once more, I learned to depend on me. Me only, no you, just me, and despite my fears I walked through the loneliness, and got to know me, and found a strength that I never even realized existed. What a profound state of being. What a way to live to be free from someone else’s burdens, someone else’s demands.

So now you know, why I no longer aim to please. I am stronger that way, and the new found love I have for myself is exhilarating. And just because the laundry is done, and the house is kept, it is only a means of pleasure for myself, not you. No longer do we share the same opinion but I have my own, and this too, makes me the one you fell in love with. A stronger much healthier me, who no longer lives to please you.

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Bridgette~

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Freedom Rodeo

Riding Bareback


I’ve had a wonderful time experiencing the 84th annual Freedom Oklahoma Rodeo! I believe it’s healthy for one’s soul to break away from the daily routine every now and then and to simply relax and experience life! Freedom Oklahoma is a very small town up in the northwestern part of the state. It is a very friendly town full of generous people.

I enjoyed watching the calf roping, the bareback riding and most of all the bull riding! I was fortunate enough to capture a few pictures and videos.

I’m grateful to see our flags flown and to see people cheer. No burning of flags here! And prayers for everyone and the contestants as well.

Beautiful horses

I hope you enjoyed this short little blog! My intentions are to provide you with some small town entertainment and to hopefully get you to take a break from your daily routine. Relax. Feed your soul!

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Bridgette ~

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