Anything Is Possible


As I reflect back to just a year ago in my own life today on where I was, what I was doing, and just who I was, the difference is like night and day. My thinking is different, my personal goals are different, my relationships with myself and people are different.

Some of the changes that have taken place have taken a more gradual slow approach, while others were like a leap. I have lost some things and yet I have gained so much. The point is, I didn’t stay stuck or stagnant.

So many times in my life, I found myself being sucked up into a state of depression, that I was blinded by what could be possible. I even went so far in 2013 that I attempted to take my own life. My own reasoning was that I thought nothing was going to get better and my children were all going to grow up and move away and I was going to be left alone.

I honestly could not see the other side of the coin! That is the way depression hinders your thoughts and any type of vision of the future. You are literally blinded. It is the saddest state of being.

My hopes today is that no matter who you are, where you are, and what you are doing, your able to take some kind of hold to these words-never give up! Never give up on the fact that anything is possible!

Words cannot describe just how grateful I am for that day that I was saved! I had no blood pressure, honestly, it was a miracle, I am here today! I have a new outlook on life, I am a stronger person than I was back then, and though I still get depressed, I hang on until my thoughts change for the better.

If I can do it, so can you! I was one of the lucky ones, and you can be one too!

Thank you for reading,

Glad to be here!

Just thoughts

Bridgette~

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Gracie’s Troubles


My dog Gracie has been forever changed since she swallowed a pair of my socks a few months ago. Her stomach is weak and despite her eating her regular dog food, she has a tendency to get sickly often. For me personally this is not a good thing because I tend to get ill feeling as well at the sound of anything vomiting.

So here I sit with my stomach rolling because Gracie woke me up getting sick. 😦

All these troubles make me think about our own mistakes that we make in our lives and how they can affect us throughout our lives. Sometimes we do something to ourselves without realizing the life long consequences it has on us and others.

Their is nothing I can do at this point to change what happened to Gracie. Now days I just have to adjust how I take care of her, and try to manage her weak stomach as well as mine. I never imagined just how high maintenance this all would be however, as I have to constantly monitor what she puts in her mouth.

I have also never had to deal with a dog trying to eat paper as well. I’m not sure if it is something she is craving or if it is just her being mischievous as I discover a half chewed up folder in the office that was holding some paperwork.

Whatever the case may be, her loving, out going full of energy personality has not changed. Gracie will be a year old next month and weighs about 65 pounds now. However, her stomach area where she had to have surgery back when this all happened has changed in appearance. She looks like a mixed racing dog instead of a full filled out lab. But that is okay with me, I love her anyway.

I hope Gracie gets to live a full happy life despite the consequences of her actions that have forever changed her. I hope that we as people get to live our lives happy as well, even though we have made some life changing bad choices. It’s all in the perspective of how we learn to adapt and overcome.

This is my blog for today, and I hope you all have a wonderful week.

My dog, Gracie

Bridgette~

In Between My Time


In between my time, is a phrase I have coined, extending back to the days when I often felt lost on the inside, usually after some type of loss. This loss was usually related to a change in what was the norm, to something, that was going to be a new way of life, a new type of living without what was. I was no longer in the old place surrounded by comfort, I was not in the new place feeling comfort, I was somewhere in between.

When I mention the word comfort, the meaning does not necessarily reflect that, because you can be in an abusive relationship, an unstable home, etc., for a length of time, and anything other than that, can cause you to feel uncomfortable. Another words, if you have grown use to living in chaos, then being ejected into a peaceful atmosphere, can be overwhelming to your senses.

My first recollection of this feeling of in between my time, or lostness, was when my father divorced my first stepmother after having been married to her for almost 10 years. My step mother had a son who was only a year and a half older than me, and a handicapped daughter who was a year and half younger than me. I had been the middle child during the relationship for years, and now I was going to be slung back into a life of being the only child. I was completely overwhelmed at the feeling of being alone. Nothing felt right, no one was the same, my world was now completely different.

I know I am not alone in this. This period of our lives, and the feeling of being uncomfortable in our own skin happens when we change jobs, careers, change relationships, move to another location, change schools, get a divorce, lose a pet, lose a family member, etc. Nothing feels right, or comfortable, and the length of time we are in this place, varies for each of us.

I find this time in my life, the most difficult of times. But yet, here I am today, I am alive, so therefore, I made it through. I made it through because I pushed through the uncomfortableness, and that uncomfortableness, began to be comfortable in itself. I adapted.

What we do with ourselves during this time, is crucial to our being. For some they can’t handle it, and they drift into negative living with bad choices. For others, they take more positive actions. Even the smallest step towards positivity can change our lives towards the better. I learned this philosophy while attending a twelve step program for my depression. The phrase, “Keep coming back, it works if you work it,” really does work, if you keep coming back! The reason you keep coming back is because eventually, it will begin to feel comfortable, like a habit.

My hope today, is that no matter where you find yourself at, just know that if you keep taking steps however so little towards where you want to be in life, you will get there eventually. Keep doing what’s right for you, and everything will fall into its place. The uncomfortableness will take on a new shape and create a new beginning. So keep coming back, and work it, and it will work for you! 🙂

Just thoughts

Bridgette~

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Our Personal Health


It’s early Sunday morning and I am awake per my usual time. I am always amazed at myself how bright eyed I can feel in the early morning hours. The best time of the day if you ask me my opinion. There will be no solid food for me today, only clear liquids, coffee, tea, and perhaps some broth as I get ready to prepare myself for a scheduled colonoscopy exam early Monday morning.

No, I am not excited. I guess I have reached the age where these types of exams will be necessary to check for cancers. Yearly breast exams have been part of the routine for years now. The only thing good about this upcoming exam that I can see for now is the fact that I will be traveling back to my former town and staying with my children. So a nice visit will be a plus.

The whole point of this blog is this, our personal health needs not to be neglected. Whether we realize it or not, our health, is really all we have. No fame, nor fortune, can ever replace it. I was once told, that if money can fix all your problems then you really have no problems. That statement, is very true.

Our personal health, is our own responsibility. Now this statement by myself of course, is what I believe. Their are so many obstacles, distractions, unfit advisors, telling us otherwise, that we need to pay attention, and make our own wise decisions. We know our own bodies better than any doctors out there, and from my own personal experience, it seems doctors just want to fix us with some type of magic pill.

I am not suggesting that all medication is bad. I am just suggesting that we need to know what works for us. I personally, prefer mother nature over any pharmaceutical company because for one, for every man made pill out there, there is some type of side effect as well. I have seen so many people take a pill for one thing, and then have to take anther pill to relieve the side effects of the original pill. 😦 By the time its all said and done, you are left taking a hand full or more of pills throughout the day.

Do your own research. Get to know your body and find out what works and doesn’t. If you think the government and big corporations want you to be healthy, take a good look around. Go to Wal Mart and tell me what you see first! As I mentioned in my previous blog, A Battle For Our Health, see link, https://hardtobemeinoklahoma.com/2021/08/27/a-battle-for-our-health/ it shouldn’t cost us more to eat healthy, but it does. Healthier choices in food, shouldn’t be hard to find. It’s like you have to wade through all the crappy unhealthy choices and pay a higher price for the healthy ones. Why is this?

Here’s a thought!

Because no one is making any money if we are healthy!

So get out there, and take care of yourself. Get to know what works best for you. Make sure you get those necessary health screens even when you don’t want to. It is a lot easier to get a handle on a small problem before it turns into a bigger one.

I am by no means a Doctor, so everything here, is just for your awareness and based on my own personal experience. We only have one life, so please take care of yourself!

Personal Health

Bridgette~

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The Power of Being Offset


Their are often times in my life that I find myself in a troubling space whether it be physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual. You know what I am talking about, the kind of space in the mind where everything gets all jumbled up and mixed up due to perhaps some bad choices or some type of neglect. For me its like a dirty house, neglected, clothes dropped on the floor, dishes piled in the sink, dust built up on the book shelf.

How I arrived at this point usually is almost shear lack of motivation, or like I mentioned above, bad choices. All these things in my life that eventually get put off, or done incorrectly, or piled up in the corner, eventually spill over into this sense of overwhelming impending disarray of emotional crisis. This awful dreadfulness like some kind of unplugged computer, eventually drains me.

Then it happens.

Something about being offset eventually snaps me like a rubber band out of the overwhelming chaos. I wake up and start cleaning house. The feeling of being offset motivates me to reset! I notice my focus is no longer hazy or lazy per say, and I am able to recognize with a clearer picture where I went wrong.

I find myself wanting to do better, be better, feel better. Be all I can be. It’s like knowing your mother is coming to visit in a matter of hours, so you start putting everything in its place, dust the bookshelf off, wash the dishes, and clean out the toilet bowl.

When all this cleaning house is done, I find something amazing has happened to my internal self, and that instead of feeling rotten to the core, I am refreshed and come out smelling like a rose. The energy that was once lost, is now recharged. Everything is feeling amazingly good, and well.

The sun is now shining bright in my life, the birds are chirping, and a sense of peace is now fulfilling. My observation of this whole process leads me to this one conclusion about life. If there was no darkness in our lives, then perhaps we would never truly appreciate the light. If we never made mistakes or bad choices then perhaps we would never truly grow as people.

Today, I can truly say, that I am thankful for the mistakes in my life, the bad choices I’ve made, the laziness that motivated me, to be better than I was perhaps even yesterday. Perhaps all these messed up things and bad feelings, have put me on a much clearer path to a brighter place. Even more so, even though I have those horrible days of depression there is this one thing I hold onto, THIS TOO SHALL PASS!

Thank you for reading,

Just thoughts

Bridgette~

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