Do our words matter? I often wonder about this. Currently I have several of my grown children fighting amongst themselves over what? I suppose its over, who doesn’t call who, who doesn’t go see who, who doesn’t appreciate what one has done for the other. It’s so exhausting.
I feel like a referee! Well, honestly, I’ve had enough! It doesn’t matter what I say, my words do not seem to matter! They honestly, want to box it out! The funny thing about all this, is they seem to want to pair up, yes there is four of them. All I can think of is, go ahead. I’m to exhausted trying to referee this stupid little arena, that my children have placed themselves in.
What a shame too! All I can think about is the gift that they have in having each other. They could be the best of friends, hang out, and spend the holidays, birthdays, with each other, but do they? Not currently.
So what’s a parent to do? Sigh….
What does it take for words to matter? Is it timing, let them grow up? Space, the distance you put between events? Is it an event, something good or bad? Honestly, do you know?
Based on my own experiences with life’s little difficulties, I’ve had people tell me things, only to have it actually click later. What was it? I seem to think it was a combination of things. Perhaps, it was the combination of all the above. But as I am sitting here typing all of this, a question comes to mind. What if those words were never spoken? Then, yes, they wouldn’t matter. But because words were spoken they were left out there to float around until the opportunity arrived to matter.
So in conclusion to, do our words matter, I would say yes. I would say, if your going to say something, say something that will encourage, give some hope, and pay a lot of attention to exactly what you say, how you say it, and avoid saying something harmful, because people have a tendency to remember the crappy things you say to them over all the positives.
As far as my children go, well, as tuff as it is, I will keep encouraging them to get along. Maybe, someday it will click inside their young minds. I hope the sooner for the better. I will do my best to be a positive role model for them. I will also, be very careful with my words and how I say them, and I hope someday, my words will matter…
I am blessed to be here and if my work is helping you in anyway all contributions are welcomed! Thank you in advance.
Thank you for your encouragement and support!